Are You Experiencing Stay-at-Home Mom Blues?

Stay at home mom depression - Denver Psychologist

Having a baby is truly a joyous and fulfilling moment. However, what about the mundane days to follow? If you are a stay-at-home mom, this is quite a transition. On top of navigating the ropes of taking care of a baby, you also have the addition of lack of sleep, long open days with seemingly no finished tasks, being trapped at home, a drop in a social life and more.

Gallup recently conducted a study of more than 60,000 U.S. women between the ages of 18-64 years old. This study found that 28 percent of stay-at-home moms admitted to depression a lot of the day. This is in comparison to only 17 percent of employed moms reporting depression. 41 percent of the stay-at-home moms also reported worry, compared to only 34 percent of their working counterparts.

From this study, we can see that this is a real phenomenon. But what is causing it?

1) Sudden change in lifestyle

As we have mentioned, there is an immense amount of change in parent’s lives after a child is born. While they gain something wonderful, the loss of their friends, income, status and life as they knew it is every bit as real. In contrast to working a job, being a mom is also a lot of unpaid work. It is 365 days a year with no vacation time, no paid time off and no breaks. This can result in utter exhaustion, mental breakdowns and being overwhelmed.

2) Isolation factor

Once a women becomes a mom, there is an automatic difference between her and her “non-mom” friends. Their lack of understanding can cause isolation and isolation can contribute to feelings of anger and depression. Some days, moms can’t even get out of the house and that means they receive no adult interaction at all. As wonderful as children are, only having conversations with them can be extremely isolating.

3) Lack of a sense of accomplishment

In the working world, there are clear parameters, tasks and projects given. The work day has a start and end time and there are direct rewards to accomplished tasks. At home, the baby will continue to cry and need a diaper change, food still needs to be cooked, and the laundry and housework will keep piling up. This causes a great lack in a stay-at-home mom feeling appreciated, understood and connected.

The first step to help is recognizing that this is normal! In our next blog, we will discuss some tips to counter stay-at-home depression. If in the meantime you need help, don’t hesitate to set up an appointment with a Denver psychotherapist today.

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