The role of anger
- Published on Wednesday, 22 May 2013 16:36
- Written by Pam Kennel
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One of my go-to sayings in my counseling practice is “Anger: a vital sourse of energy, motivation and positive change in the world (Colin Ross)”. I use it to help remind myself and my clients to use their anger for their benefit and to reinforce the position that there is nothing wrong with having emotions, anger included. It is the ability to use our emotions as an asset that is important. Emotions give us the first hint of that something is different or needs changing. Anger can tell us that that there is something unjust. Of course not always. It can signal us to re-evaluate our own interpretations as sometimes the emotions are from old lingering values. Or it could be a protective emotion too, protecting us from more vulnerable feelings such as hurt or fear.
When you get angry, it is helpful to allow the feeling to come, without looking for blame, observe what the trigger was, decide what you want to change, others treatment of you or your own response to the situation. You can then ask rationally for help in changing the situation if that is possible. If not, accepting that some things will not change and decide if you live with that.
Review of book “The Seven Levels of Intimacy” by Mathew Kelly
- Published on Thursday, 30 August 2012 12:08
- Written by Pam Kennel
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I recommend this book for those trying to get greater satisfaction out of their relationships, be they friends, family, or your partner in life. Though this book is aimed at primary relationships, I find it helpful in all relationships.
We all have other people in our lives and times without a primary relationship. The knowledge imparted in this book can help give direction and motivation to maintaining those other relationships even when your preoccupied. The book helps give direction to deepening casual friendships and the reality of the limits of others without giving them up.
Of course, this book is very helpful and inspiring to that illusive goal of deep intimacy and yet it is more. It can motivate one to learn about our own needs, to ask for what we need and become curious of our loved ones needs.
The book is organized as ever deepening levels of intimacy with the 7th level something to strive for even in small snippets of reality. I have observed couples that would meet a very high levels of intimacy in some areas while others subjects are taboo or so conflictual, they stay on the surface. That being said, all levels described have their value. We each provide for each other in various capacities. Even within a relationship, the intimacy level can vary from day to day.
Read this book, have it be your guiding light and not a source of comparison to what one “should” be doing and take it slow. Real intimacy can take a lifetime. Pam
Denver Public Library
- Published on Wednesday, 18 July 2012 11:22
- Written by Pam Kennel
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Check out the Denver Public Library for “Events for Teens”.
Ongoing Womens Therapy Groups
- Published on Wednesday, 20 June 2012 11:26
- Written by Pam Kennel
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Find several women’s therapy groups at http://www.meetup.com/The-Denver-Therapy-Group-for-Women/. There are groups for the following issues listed:
Women with Anxiety, Depression ; Therapy ; Self-Improvement ; Midlife Reinvention For Women ; Wellness ; Dating and Relationships ; Personal Growth ; Friends ; Newly Single ; Self Empowerment & Exploration ; Meeting New People ; Women’s Social ; group therapy for women in transition ; Women’s Empowerment
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Michael Dukakis
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