How to help a bullied child

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Continuing our discussion about bullying, do you know what to do when you’ve noticed some warning signs? Kids often struggle to speak to their parents or an adult about bullying because they are embarrassed and want to try to deal with it themselves. The first thing to remember is to create a loving, stress-free environment with your child. If they are being bullied, the last thing they need is to come home to an interrogating parent. Try your best to talk them calmly through it and in whatever decisions you make, make sure they are willing and open to at least try.

Watch their body language

Since they may not want to tell you, it’s crucial to read their body language. You can calmly ask them questions such as:

  • You seem to be so hungry when you come home from school. Have you been eating lunch?
  • I noticed your jacket is ripped. What happened?
  • Is there any reason why you don’t want to take the bus anymore?

They may not say much, but often what your child isn’t saying speaks more. Silence is powerful and can mean a lot.

Talk to someone they spend a lot of time with.

If, after seeing their response to those types of questions, you think you should pursue the matter further, considering who sees them a lot. Perhaps a teacher, athletic coach or a close peer of theirs might have some insight. You can ask them if they’ve noticed any kids your child doesn’t want to be with, if they’ve seen anything happen in the halls or bathroom or if your child seems withdrawn during class or practice. If you can, with their help, figure out when and where your child is bullied, that will be a step forward.

If the warning signs continue or intensify, it will only help your child if you reach out for them. Consider teen psychotherapy to help with the effects of bullying and alert any school officials that might be able to put a stop to it. Bullying often has more lasting effects than we think, so the sooner it is stopped, the better!