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Tips to Counter Stay-at-Home Mom Depression


In the last blog, we focused on identifying stay-at-home mom depression. It helps to realize that you are not alone in your experiences. So what can you do to counteract the depression? Here are a few tips to help you feel more accomplished about your day.

Don’t start your day without a shower!

With the baby crying all night, it may be hard to distinguish when your day actually started. But taking those short, 20 minutes to shower and put on jeans and a t-shirt can make you feel refreshed, clean and prepared for the day. It also opens up the option for you to leave during the day or have someone come over because getting yourself ready will be one less thing you have to do! Making this a priority every morning will do wonders for your self-esteem.

Create a schedule or a checklist.

You will be amazed at how scheduling your day changes the way you feel. If you have a schedule, you wake up every day with a purpose. We know that making an hourly schedule can be too hard with the baby’s needs. But what about assigning certain days to do things? Tuesdays can be laundry days, Wednesdays are for shopping and running errands, and so on.

If making and deciding a schedule is too daunting for you, write a checklist every night for the next day. Think about what you didn’t finish, what you may have the energy to do the next day, etc. They can be very small things, like emailing your Mom, folding half the laundry, or texting a friend. As you check off those items, your sense of accomplishment will increase.

Stop watching too much TV or spending too much time on the computer.

Wasting your precious alone time on watching TV will only make you feel less accomplished. There is truth in the addictiveness of TV watching and internet surfing and it is a true time thief and brain washer. Indulging in this will only add to the downward spiral of feeling lonely and unproductive. Never turn on the TV or open your laptop unless you have a specific purpose in mind. Use your extra time to read a book, go for a walk, read to your baby or go to a park. This is where a checklist is extra handy. When you feel the urge to turn on the TV, go to the checklist first and see if there is something productive that you can accomplish.

While these tips may seem simple, they will be a huge step forward in countering any stay-at-home mom depression. If you have any other tips to offer, leave a comment below! And if you need further help and suggestions, contact us for our counseling services in Centennial and surrounding areas.

Are You Experiencing Stay-at-Home Mom Blues?

Stay at home mom depression - Denver Psychologist

Having a baby is truly a joyous and fulfilling moment. However, what about the mundane days to follow? If you are a stay-at-home mom, this is quite a transition. On top of navigating the ropes of taking care of a baby, you also have the addition of lack of sleep, long open days with seemingly no finished tasks, being trapped at home, a drop in a social life and more.

Gallup recently conducted a study of more than 60,000 U.S. women between the ages of 18-64 years old. This study found that 28 percent of stay-at-home moms admitted to depression a lot of the day. This is in comparison to only 17 percent of employed moms reporting depression. 41 percent of the stay-at-home moms also reported worry, compared to only 34 percent of their working counterparts.

From this study, we can see that this is a real phenomenon. But what is causing it?

1) Sudden change in lifestyle

As we have mentioned, there is an immense amount of change in parent’s lives after a child is born. While they gain something wonderful, the loss of their friends, income, status and life as they knew it is every bit as real. In contrast to working a job, being a mom is also a lot of unpaid work. It is 365 days a year with no vacation time, no paid time off and no breaks. This can result in utter exhaustion, mental breakdowns and being overwhelmed.

2) Isolation factor

Once a women becomes a mom, there is an automatic difference between her and her “non-mom” friends. Their lack of understanding can cause isolation and isolation can contribute to feelings of anger and depression. Some days, moms can’t even get out of the house and that means they receive no adult interaction at all. As wonderful as children are, only having conversations with them can be extremely isolating.

3) Lack of a sense of accomplishment

In the working world, there are clear parameters, tasks and projects given. The work day has a start and end time and there are direct rewards to accomplished tasks. At home, the baby will continue to cry and need a diaper change, food still needs to be cooked, and the laundry and housework will keep piling up. This causes a great lack in a stay-at-home mom feeling appreciated, understood and connected.

The first step to help is recognizing that this is normal! In our next blog, we will discuss some tips to counter stay-at-home depression. If in the meantime you need help, don’t hesitate to set up an appointment with a Denver psychotherapist today.

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