The Top 5 Books for Improving Your Marriage

The Christmas lights are packed up, and the paper hearts have been taken down; now we are all waiting for spring.  Whether things have been rocky at home, or you and your significant other are doing your best, here at South Denver Psychotherapy, we have a few books to help keep you, and your marriage, warm, cozy, and well-informed until bright, warm days arrive again.


 5. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey


 This book is a heavy weight in the self-help world, and it continues to be a staple for people from all walks of life. It may seem like an unlikely read for improving your relationships, but think about it -those who are successful and happy usually excel at navigating healthy relationships.


While some people say there are places where Covey drags, a read through of the chapter on Understanding (habit 5)  is a good way to learn the basics of communicating with those you love. It could even inspire you to read the rest of the book.


4. How Can I Forgive You? by Janis Abrahms Spring


How Can I Forgive You is a follow-up to Spring’s cornerstone work, After the Affair. Both are great reads and can be found on the shelves of a wide variety of therapists, psychologists, and counselors. As the title suggests, How Can I Forgive You? focuses on forgiveness in relationships.  It deals with how to forgive after a traumatic event, how to earn forgiveness, and the healthy steps you should take if forgiveness is not an option.


3. The Relationship Cure by John Gottman


John Gottman is here to teach you that it isn’t what you say, but how you say it, that matters. He explains this key principle in 5 steps sure to improve your relationships through better emotional connectedness. As he is one of the leading experts in relationships, his book, The Relationship Cure, is sure to help you grow and improve your friendships, family ties, and, of course, your marriage.


2.  The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real


Terrance Real dives into the trenches and tackles the everyday struggles couples face in today’s world. He is known for his work helping both sexes understand that conflict is normal and to communicate better. He promotes fighting fair, remembering passion, and establishing boundaries. This book is a great tool for any 21st century marriage and a perfect reference for two strong, capable partners.  


1.       The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman


This is one of the classics! Learn which way you and your spouse show and best receive love, through acts, gifts, physical contact, or quality time. Once you learn which category you and your spouse fall under, you will be able to communicate better and find a balance so that both parties feel loved.


This book often shows up dog-eared and well-loved as it circulates among friends. It’s a great gift for couples, new and old alike.


We love helping you and your spouse thrive in a healthy and happy partnership, but as many of us know, marriage is hard work and constantly grows and change.  South Denver Psychotherapy is here to help you grow along the way. Don’t forget to do a little reading while you are at it.


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